It wasn't the easiest of weeks I can tell you that.  I wanted life to just pause, freeze, rewind, no... really I just wanted it to stop.

Another episode of my baby sister back in the ICU and it all happened within a month.  "Really God?  You've got to be kidding!! When will this F&*$% nightmare just be over with?"

For a recap, my baby sister was hit by a drunk driver back in 2010.  Ever since that horrendous day I have yet to hear my baby sister speak, nor her husband or her five year old daughter for that matter.

It's been a saga with no ending point.

So when I got the call that my baby sister was back in the ICU, my mind

It was the first time we were to meet in person, I knew he was going to be nervous and I wasn't entirely sure what to expect.  

The minute Joe set on my couch one of the first things he said to me was "I don't believe in love... I think it's f$#@$ bull@#$#."

I took in a big gulp of air to my belly as I knew this wasn't going to be easy.  My first time sitting with my client and he boldly tells me he doesn't believe in the one thing I have learned to base my life on.

To hear Joe say these words hurt me deeply.  Here was a 

Whenever you think of love do you think it looks like a beautiful romantic movie?  

You know they meet on que, the sun is shining bright, the orchestra is playing the perfect melody and our two characters fall in love as it's meant to be.

The world as we know it is finally working out the way it should, as we knew it was meant to.

Your heart feels that surge of emotions, you too become engulfed with love as you witness these lovebirds being swept away the music of love.  

You let out a deep breath and your body rests assured that life is really meant to work out.  Love is there to carry you away and set you free.

Marriage isn't always easy, in fact it's rarely easy.  

We find it so easy to replace things in life like shoes, cars and handbags.  

But do we treat our relationships the way we treat things?


When looking for relationship advice, there isn't an easy answer.  

Relationships take work, they take commitment.

Today I had the wonderful privilege of being interviewed by the lovely Ande Lyons at Bring Back Desire.  Press play and enjoy this delicious interview as we talk about sex, love, dating and finding the right one!

Have you ever thought about dating outside your race? 

Recently a viewer wrote in and shared his dilemma about interracial dating. 

 A creole man who feels the society he's surrounded with only accepts him one way.  

As a result he feels the pressure of dating only his race.

The problem?  He's attracted to women outside of his race.

Have you just ended your relationship and now you're wondering how to deal with break ups?  Maybe you were the one who was broken up with and now the aftermath of a break up has you hurting and feeling lost.

Break ups are never fun.  When a couple experiences relationship problems it can feel like your entire life is falling apart.  Listen as Dating & Relationship Coach Arica 

Ever been called scaredy pants or fraidy cat?

I'd be lying if I said I had never heard these phrases for myself.

Every summer I was terrified of swimming and every summer I dreaded the part when my dad wanted to re-teach me how to swim.

It was a terrifying time for me, while my little sister and cousin were out gleefully swimming, I was holding on to the side of the pool, balling crying for my dear life.

Looking back I realize that my enemy wasn't the pool, it wasn't swimming, it wasn't the water.... it was fear.

Is everyone made to be loved?  

Now I'm not talking about your puppy, nor am I talking about your adorable niece.

No I'm talking about love in regards to intimacy.

Meaning are we all intended to be in romantic relationships?

The other night with a group of friends we were discussing this very topic and some of our friends felt like not everyone was meant to be in a relationship. That some people would be content being single for the rest of their lives.