All relationships are not created equal. I’m convinced that the relationships that come into our lives are meant to serve a purpose. Relationship can be intended for friendship, to create awareness, for intimacy, encouragement, for business and so on the list goes. The interesting thing about it all is it’s for us to decide what direction we will allow the relationship to go.
I can think of a couple of relationships in my life, intimate ones, that should’ve never happened. Meaning, I wasn’t very clear on their purpose in my life, I was at a place where I wanted intimacy and so the relationship that should’ve been a friendship turned into intimacy. Intimacy that cost me.
In hindsight, looking back on these relationships, its very clear to me now that they weren’t cut out for intimacy, the writing was everywhere saying “Don’t go there”, but in my wanting what I wanted, the intimacy road was paved. Let’s just say its a valuable lesson that I wish I had known about and could’ve spared myself lots of heartache and time, had I known.
The secret is Awareness. Being aware of where you are in your life, who you’re surrounded by and where you’re going. I’m a “take action” kind of a person, so slowing down and being aware has not necessarily been one of my forte’s. Being a Type A personality has made me develop a deep appreciation for all those who have the fascinating gift of patience.
Had I been a bit more patient, I could’ve taken a step back, looked at my life present and future, to see if the person who was in front of me really was meant for intimacy or perhaps a beautiful friendship. Thankfully I haven’t done this everytime, but the times I did definitely left a mark.
You live and learn. There’s a passage in the bible that says “A wise man learns from his own mistake, but a wiser man learns from another.”, well here is your opportunity to be wiser than me! Take it.
Relationships are meant to be a precious gift to bring us joy, wisdom and beauty. The next time you consider entering a relationship of intimacy, allow patience to be your escort. Loneliness and hormones aren’t always the best two to listen to, while they remind you of your need, they typically don’t provide your solution.
Let the little angel that sits on your shoulder be able to ask “Are You Sure that’s Supposed to Happen?” That voice is there to serve you, so give it the opportunity to lead you down the path that’s most beneficial for your heart!