Whenever I go shopping for shoes I become the diva of opinion as I talk aloud and think the most grueling thoughts over in my head. ”Those are disgusting who would actually wear those? What was that designer thinking when they made these shoes. That shoe would be so much better if only it had a higher heel!” I mean really, I act as if I’d been to fashion school and know all the ends and out of fashion design, but I haven’t, however I do know what I like. And to the most minute detail at that.
Really if you want to meet a picky woman spend a day with me, I’m very selective about restaurants where I like to go out for fun, the list goes on and on. Some may call it high maintenance, I call it being impeccably focused on what I want. Perhaps you know someone similar to me? For those around us types it can be very draining, however when I’ve found what it is that I really want I do feel quite satisfied and very pleased.
I’m convinced that the same selectivity must be used in dating as well. This is when the dating the slogan of “anything/anyone will do” does NOT ring true. If I’m going to spend any of my time with another person there must be some key pieces in place with that individual. Either they’re smart, incredibly funny, very optimistic, well travelled, (I would throw in good looking here, but if a guy is gorgeous but dumb as bricks I won’t waste my time), or exciting to be around, thats the only way I’ll even consider a date with a guy.
If someone is negative, a dull, a narcissist, not driven or a dream killer I won’t waste my time spending an hour of my precious life with them. Sound harsh? Well if you’re not implementing selectivity into your dating life, chances are you are wasting lots of your very valuable time. Time is precious so when you’re considering who you’ll say yes or no to in the dating world, selectivity must be part of your process. Anyone will do? I think NOT.
Tomorrow I’ll share why selectivity in relationships is highly crucial and why knowing what direction your headed is a vital instrument to have. Until then, let your selectivity do its magic for you!