Picture with me if you will that relationship that seems like its sent from Heaven. You get along great, they make you laugh, you love going to the same places, things that seem fun to you, seem fun to them also. You like the same foods, you have an appreciation for the same sort of things like style, art, movies, etc. Life is good, you tilt your head back while allowing the breeze to blow through your air and you say to yourself “This is the life!”
Now picture with me a different type of relationship. You initially meet and the chemistry is there. Attraction is on point, but man that chemistry is really there and boy is it heavy. As the two of you start hanging out you immediately start noticing things that totally annoy you, but you pass it off and think that if you’ll just give it time those thoughts and pet peeves will dissipate. The chemistry remains, but as life and the relationship proceeds you start feeling that the chemistry is no longer carrying its fair share of weight.
Those annoying things have now become more annoying, you look for things in common to help compensate, but the more you dig the more you realize that there aren’t too many things that you really have in common. Sure you can return to the chemistry to help tip you over, but over time it no longer does the job. You’re really just frustrated, you try to find where you once were happy, yet you can’t deny the fact that you’re now constantly annoyed.
Relationships that have plenty in common, built on solid things that incorporate what a strong friendship possesses, are the ones that come across as the “Ah it’s so easy!” side. But the ones that are founded upon chemistry and chemistry alone are those relationships that won’t be able to whether the storms. In fact, the really don’t have much of a chance to stand and often times do result in falling apart.
Grant it, let’s be honest here. All relationships require work and despite how much you have in common, there will come those times where you’ll have to roll up your sleeves and work. But when the relationship is built upon the solid fundamentals that are also in those close solid friendships we have, its those relationships that really have to opportunity to flourish and actually go somewhere.
Chemistry and friendship are both needed to help usher in those “Ah it’s so easy” moments in the relationship. So if you’re at a point in your relationship where the pet peeves are stacking up against you, get back to building the friendship. Go back to what had you both smiling in the first place. Do the things that made you laugh and when the chemistry comes, surfs up and ride that wave baby!