Approaching people can be a scary thing when you’re single and wanting to meet others of the opposite sex. For guys it can be rough, women are constantly approached, have our hands constantly grabbed and are called “baby” by complete random strangers quite often. So when a sweet guy just wants to say hello we’re exhausted from shoving off all of the “over aggressive”, “over eager”, downright “obnoxious guys” so you as guy take the chance of getting your head bitten off.
Just the other night while out with my girlfriends I can’t tell you how many times I had a guy grab my hand, yell at me from his car about how I looked (damn good!), cornered me into conversation, interrupted my girlfriend and I from conversation, try to dance with me without me implying I was interested… do I need to continue? So needless to say by the end of the night as a woman, I’m done. When that good guy does approach I’m exhausted from saying no all night.
(Ladies I recommend hanging out with other guys closely, wearing a wedding band or just being incredibly direct by saying “NO). Because I’m a softy I won’t be that rude girl by telling guys off, but I also tend to have guys sticking around far too long because I’m not that way. Eventually even I have to put my foot down. It sucks for the guys who are just genuine great guys trying to make an introduction. It’s annoying for me that when I do see someone I’m interested, I’m so worn out by it all that I think to myself ”I can’t be bothered” and go in ignore mode.
As women we have risks as well. When guys are surrounded by women who are airheads, or vodka grabbers (girls who only talk to guys because they have a bottle vodka at their table), or women who are typical sleep with ya on the first date kind of women, they give the rest of women of actual substance a bad wrap. To some degree we as women have to prove that we are not those other women. ”Yes I have a brain”, “No I don’t need your drinks as I’m capable of buying my own” and “No I will not be having sex with you tonight”.
Face it, guys, ladies this can be dangerous territory. Anytime we approach the opposite sex we take the risk of getting rejected, falsely accused before we open our mouths and judged from the minute we say “Hello”. Don’t let that stop you. Be relentless, push through it. Just because there are car accidents every day doesn’t mean I will stop driving. Just because planes crash doesn’t mean I’ll stop flying. Just because some people over eat doesn’t mean I’ll never touch another donut for the rest of my life! (Okay so I love donuts, quit judging me!)
Sure there’s risk, but that’s the exciting, unpredictable side of life. There are times where I’ve taken the risk and have talked to guys that I typically would’ve avoided. I’ve gone on dates where I wasn’t really sure if they were someone I’d completely be interested in. But because I saw something I liked whether that was a funny personality, persistence, or other characteristics I admired, I said “yes!”. As a result I have been pleasantly surprised time and time again. But I would’ve never experienced that had I not taken the risk.
So while it may be dangerous territory, it’s territory worth exploring!
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