Does everyone love you? Be honest with yourself.
Are you that person that causes people light to up, or are you the downer?
Change up your location, go to spots that you're not familiar with and evaluate, do people enjoy you?
I've lived in lots of places. Galveston, TX, Columbus, OH, Los Angeles, CA, Redding, CA and as far as England.
One thing has been in common in all these places...
everyone loves me. Sound egotistical? Perhaps, especially if you don't know me. But before you get your panties in a wad let's continue.
I've committed to one thing, to be me. Despite where I live, despite whats accepted, I choose to be me to the fullest and enjoy who I am.
Which means, I wear stilettos when sandals and tennis shoes are to be worn. I'm loud, quiet, chic, inappropriate at times and I speak the truth, no matter what. Grant it I understand social cues, etc, but overall I bring me to the table, to the party, to any location.
Sounds pretty simple right? Not at all. I get challenged, I get raised eyebrows and I've been told to change it up, do things others find more acceptable.
My response? Not a chance!
Here's the problem with changing how you represent you to cater to others, you lose yourself.
How does that effect your dating? You feel fake, no longer authentic and completely disconnected from you.
Do others find this attractive? Absolutely not.
You not being comfortable with yourself, makes others around you uncomfortable as well. I watch it happen everyday and it's something that I want to yell out "Stop it!!" It's weird, it's awkward, it's not YOU.
Why everyone loves me is very simple. I enjoy me, I refuse to compromise me and in return, I give those around me the permission to do the same. Will you?