Do you ever have those conversations with yourself that either really lift you up or do the opposite and completely tear you down? Just this morning I had to make a shift in some of my own self talk. There was this area where I kept pointing out to myself where I could do more, where I thought improvements needed to be made. Sounds pretty healthy right? No harm in that I’m sure you’re thinking.
The problem was I wasn’t acknowledging where I was doing things right! I wasn’t responding back with “You know Arica you’ve done so well at ……, I’m really proud of you!” Last night I did a teleconference call for people who wanted to overcome shyness in dating, if you weren’t there you missed out! On the call we one of the things we discussed was this very same topic that I’m sharing with you, self talk, what we’re saying to ourselves. The same topic I challenged myself on in an area in my own life.
Here’s the thing, when you beat yourself down internally it
doesn’t go unnoticed. Meaning you start “wearing” what you’re saying. If you’re beating the crap out of yourself it starts showing up on your countenance and others witness it. Now just think about that in terms of the dating world. If you constantly tell yourself “No one is ever going to want to date me”, guess what you’re telling other singles out there. “YOU REALLY DO NOT WANT TO DATE ME!” And so they don’t.
They avoid you like the plague and look for someone who’s more confident and seems to have their stuff together. Listen up, self talk can either propel you or sabotage you. You are ultimately responsible for what conversations you permit to go on between your mind and your heart. Take into account that others are aware too, so if you’re wanting to change your dating game up start here. It’s serious business and needs serious attention.
Some of you may struggle with this and despite your efforts of winning, you keep living in a self defeating mode. If thats you and you’re at a place where you’ve decided you want help, reach out to me and send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org I’d love to be able to work with you, it breaks my heart when I see people struggling with areas that are simple enough to turn around with the right help. Take action today and give yourself the opportunity to make the changes to get you ready to meet the one you desire.