Who knew that Love had a Face? Well if you didn’t know, you’ll know now! When looking into the eyes of love in your relationship, often times we can get distratcted with what’s right in front of us. The face that appears may not always be the one in front of you, but faces from the past.
Face it.. (no pun intended), the second we come out of our mothers womb, Love’s Face starts appearing in many shapes and forms. Your first experience with love is typically with your parents. In those formative years, Love is defined for us and the way we perceive it, follows with us throughout our lives.
Parents who were abusive, who may have abandoned the one they were supposed to love, or who just flat out held out on love, not only effected that person as a child, but also molded them into their adulthood. How an adult chooses to respond to those sort of situations, soon becomes their responsibility. In all fairness, its frankly not fair. However, it must be addressed, ignoring and hiding are not options. That is unless having a healthy relatioship in your future is not in your interest.
Healthy, loving homes can seem to be so rare, yet they do exist. Coming from a loving home will really set someone in the direction to live a life filled with meaningful, rich love. The opposite is a differnt story. Without the correct navigation, unhealthy love can steer that person into a whirlwind of unfulfilled love, lots of unanswered questions, among many other things.
Needless to say that when a person has often seen the Face of wrong Love, things can get quite confusing and when real love appears, it all becomes very tricky. Going on the journey to recover your heart from the wrong Faces of Love is desperately needed, yet courage, persevearance and hope will be needed. Those who bury and ignore, while guarding their hearts may often viewed as people with great strength, stone cold and untouchable. Yet in any battle, he who runs from his enemy will not be found among the brave.
This topic can be divulged into many, however where I want to focus in this writing is what we do with the Faces of Love. When I talk about the Faces of Love, what I mean is every person that has come through your life who was supposed to show you real love, who either excelled or didn’t. Parents, family members, friends, mentors and yes intimate relationships.
When we experience hurt, pain and agony where we should’ve experienced the purity of love, we carry those faces in our hearts to serve as markers to help and protect us in the future. But do they? In my experience, holding on to the faces of my past in attempt to guard and protect my heart have done something quite differently then what I expected.
You see, when you’re on the lookout for the faces of the past to protect and serve you, they also serve as walls, prisons, that will block hurt, along with love from ever coming in. Experience is a great teacher, but its there to teach you, never is the experience to become your reality, to be your shield.
Entering into a new relationship, or even being in a healthy relationship can be scary for the person who has come from brokeness. The Face’s of Love..or shall I say “Wrong Love”, of the past, creep into picture as ghosts, haunting us to never go back or else. Yet while I learn from my past, I do not allow its grip to define my future.
No longer can we take the faces of our past and put them on our future. If the Faces of Love from your past have been the wrong ones, learn from them, but do not keep them as your treasure that you cleave to. They’re there to serve as a reminder, but not as your ultimate compass to direct you.
Allow new Faces of Love to come in. Exchange the wrong for the right. If the wrong continue to come, go on the journey to mending your heart so that you can change the flow. And when healthy love finds its way into your arms, cherish it and remember, its the Face of Love you want to remain.