Recently someone posted something that I thought was quite funny regarding women who post skimpy pictures to get attention, I reposted it on my Facebook because I thought it was relevant. Apparently my fans weren’t too crazy about it as not one person liked it. The quote was from Katt Williams, not the most reputable of characters, however what he said was true. It referenced to women who post half naked pictures and his alternative was for them to post a picture of a “diploma” instead.
Needless to say it sparked a bit of a debate as women had their 2 cents to express and rightly so. The gist of it all was this… people posting questionable pictures for validation. Face it, Facebook.. no pun intended.. has given all of us
an avenue to display and promote ourselves the way we want to be seen. If we’re feeling low, we all know that with a couple of clicks and remarks we can create the boost we’re needing. Depending on who we are and what type of attention we want, we’ll post and respond accordingly.
For women, it’s the obvious. We post pictures with our lips puckered, skimpy dresses and how cute we are holding our cocktails. For some women they choose to take it a little further, bikini pics, seductive poses and booty shots get displayed for all to see. Including their parents who are on Facebook as well, but embarrassingly turn their heads. (Thankfully my parents have yet to join the Book!)
For men, it’s a bit more discreet, but still done. The more sophisticated of men I’ve noticed do the whole “I’ll post when I’m somewhere extravagant or wherever I’m traveling.” Now that seems harmless, but what it’s really saying is “I’m well traveled, I have class, I’m going places.” Still case in point, it’s a form for reaching out for validation. Others will go as far as posting pictures of their abs, their workout routines, etc. All seeking validation.
So what is it? What are we all needing validation for? What’s the need for the approval, a pat on the back, an acknowledgement that says “you’re a bad ass”, “you’re hot”, whatever? We’re not full.
Full on what? Full of love and self love for that. Face it, self love is a daily thing you do. Some days you succeed, some days you don’t. And the days you don’t, you reach out for validation. Get over it, you do it, I do it, we all do it. Rather then getting embarrassed and feeling judged over the whole ordeal, I suggest you allow it to be a moment of awakening. For me it’s always a nice wake up call when I find the need to reach out for attention.
It says “Oh yah… I haven’t been filling myself up with love. I’m reaching out to others for something I already have inside of me, I just got distracted.” The next time you feel that itch to post the next picture, next statement, next tag ask yourself “What am I lacking? What do I need?” Here’a hint, it’s a return to love.