I was chatting/texting with a girlfriend today and we were talking about how in relationships we tend to sweat the small stuff and blow up over things that aren’t significant. I think it’s pretty common in relationships, after you’ve become incredibly comfortable with the other person, you can at times take them for granted and find yourself getting upset over matters that aren’t important. Despite how much we realize this, we still find ourselves slipping into this lazy behavior and our partners are thinking “Sheesh, give me a break!”
You know what I’m talking about, you start nagging them about their clothes (okay so maybe that’s just me), the way they do the dishes annoys you, the noise they make when they brush their teeth drives you crazy and that laugh that used to turn you on now is extremely obnoxious. So while your partner is driving you nuts, your single friends are thinking “At least you have someone to drive you nuts!” And my singles say “Amen!” to that.
While your griping them out over the insignificant, you’re also missing out on the important stuff. Like when you get that call that a family member has been rushed to the hospital, they’re there to hold you as you’re upset. Or that moment when you’re really annoyed with life and they say something that completely brightens your day, perhaps even their humor brings the sunshine to rise again on your face. What about those family functions that typically have you on guard and overwhelmed, but their simple presence brings a strength and a safety to you.
Today my mother is going in for surgery and while its not life threatening, just the thought of my mother being sedated and going under the knife reminds me of how significant she is to me, how life with her is so full and life without her would be unbearable. She’s so important to me, both her and my father as they both have been rocks in my life that I can always go to. Her presence makes the little things seem silly and irrelevant, as she is such a force of love and sweetness.
Remember what’s important in your relationship, the moments where the stupid shit annoys you remember that there is someone else who admires your green grass, so facilitate it. They admire it because it’s beautiful, perhaps borrowing their view will help you shift your thoughts on what you have and develop an appreciation for just how good life really is for you. It’s The Important Stuff that lasts.