Have you ever heard someone say “Oh that’s just how that person is?” If you haven’t, well then find yourself fortunate because I have and let me say that every time I hear this expression it infuriates me. It says to me that that person is stuck and not that they can’t change, but that they won’t change. I have a deep respect for people who go on self discovery journeys and who are brave enough to look inside and embrace change where change is needed.
People who are stagnant and set in their ways I really have a challenge with, nor do I respect them. Love them yes, respect them no I do not. I have these two friends who are absolutely phenomenal at constantly living life through an adventure that constantly shapes who they are and as a result they experience more and more freedom. Their joy is contagious and their energy is infectious. When you’re around them, they make you want to be a better person. I particularly adore this couple and trust them with matters of my own heart.
In relationships, couples often find themselves discouraged as their partner can become set in their ways, leaving the relationship with a desolate outcome. I’m here to encourage you that it doesn’t have to be this way. People can change, when we step out and choose to see what hope lies within them. Too often we get stuck seeing the crap and we make that our focus. However when we step out of the box and say “Hey, I see more, you can do more, you can be more!” and then from that posture share with them the endless possibilities that they possess, we then call that out in them as opposed to the crap.
From that moment, it’s up to the other person to take you up on the challenge. The courageous will always say yes, though the challenge may make them uncomfortable, they will not back down. Be encouraged to know that your relationship is not doomed, people aren’t set out to live life one particular way. Everything is open to change, this world is made for movement, not idleness. Sometimes we just need to be reminded of that!