The heart is an interesting gift we all possess. While it can contribute to making us feel wonderful and alive, its the same thing that can provoke feelings of discomfort, agony, thus known as heartache. Daily we’re always presented with the option to live a life with a heart that is open to the Good, the Bad and the Ugly. The daring usually step up to the challenge, while those who give up, build up walls with a stainless steel door marked boldy, “DO NOT ENTER”.
Recently, I had a dear friend, who I might add is probably one of the bravest people I know, go through a situation where she did just what a courageous woman would do. She opened her heart. Now, if you know her story, it isn’t one painted of roses and sweet nothings. No, this girl has really been through it. So when she told me she was opening her heart, naturally, I applauded her.
Things were going great and then, it happened. He flaked and she’s left with a very hurting heart. Needless to say I’d like to find this guy and rip particular body parts off of him for hurting my girl. However, him no longer possessing the necessary organs to be able to reproduce, will not solve the dilemma of my girlfriends broken heart.
I too, have gone on the same journey where I risked the vulnerability of my heart, things not working out and I was left scratching my head thinking “WTF?” When that happens, we look for all sort of coping mechanisms. Shut down, over analyze, wall the heart over, or look for the next best thing to numb the pain. (Mine has always been, date 5 guys at once and stay busy. …However I don’t recommend this method. While its a Fabulous boost for the ego, it’s exhausting and lord knows you’ll need all the strength you can gather to get through that broken heart.)
So why, why do we do it? Why would I ever encourage someone to Open Up Again? Why will I advise my girlfriend two or three months from now, to give it a another go? Because as simple as it may sound, we are made for love. Not only to love, but to be loved. And loved deeply for that matter.
The trick is, love can never enter where there are chains, arrogance and hurt that you choose to treasure, which is no longer serving you. Easier said than done? You damn straight. It’s a daily choice. It’s a daily dose of an Indiana Jones/Angelina Jolie, Tomb Raider moments! Even in a marriage of 25 years, each partner has to remain committed to doing life together from the heart, as opposed to well acquainted roommates.
So should you “Open Up Again”,….yes! But remember that when you open up your heart, its an investment, so be sure that the candidate is worthy of such a hefty price!
To my friend… you are admired, adored and your courage is always inspiring.