When you’re fresh out of a divorce, you’ve been single for awhile or live in a city like Los Angeles where fancy cars take precedence over love, having hope for love can come rather scarce. A girlfriend of mine once shared that whilst living in WeHo (West Hollywood), she found herself becoming very depressed in matters of love, because almost all of the best looking men were gay and unavailable. In fact just the other night a married friend said, “If you’re single and ready to meet a man, DON’T move to WeHo unless you really want to get discouraged.” I laughed as it wasn’t the first time I heard this forewarning.
Most of the time when we’re looking
to find hope in the matter of love, we’ll find ourselves going to the the movies, popping in a flick on the television or listening to love tunes to rekindle the spark in our hearts. But as soon as we get faced with life, that little glimmer of hope that became a light through the movie, song, what have you, we find the spark gone and we’re left with feelings of loneliness, inadequacy and sometimes despair. Maybe seeing others post pictures on Facebook about their love lives encourage you, but as soon as you hear that voice “It’ll never happen for you”, your glimmer of hope is gone.
I find that a lot of singles struggle when it comes to finding hope with love. Let me rephrase that.. a lot of singles struggle with holding on to hope in terms of finding love. How do you hold onto it? For one, how do you even find it?
Let me turn the tables around at let me ask you a couple of questions. Do you find yourself deserving of love? Why should love find its way into your life? I’m curious as to how you’ll answer those questions, because your response is in direct relation as to whether or not you’ll be the one to hold onto hope.