There have been many times where I’ve heard hopeful Singles say “You know I can’t wait to meet the person of my dreams so that I can pour all of my love on them!” While I always love the idea of dreaming of being with that Special One, something about this expression always leaves me a bit puzzled.
You see, while Singles may dream of meeting and being with that special someone, what can often be forgotten is that while you’re single, much can be implemented in the Now. Meaning, now is the time to love the one’s you’re with. Practice now, so that when “then” comes, you’ll be well prepared.
From my own experience, where I am now, I feel like all of my energy is poured into my sister and our family, due to our recent situation. As much as I Looove Dating, the idea of it sounds a bit exhausting right now. However, because I’m really into this thing we know as Love, rather than being discouraged about it, I realized that I’m actually practicing on my love right now with my family.
We can fall into this grand illusion, that someday we’ll become these spectacular lovers with our future Mr/Mrs. Perfect, while passing on the opportunity to Love Where it Counts! The truth is, the people you are surrounded with now, are your very preparation to teach you to Love and Love well!
When married, there comes a point where the feelings of love may dissipate for a time and all that you’re left with is the steadfastness of a loving friendship. That’s where your practicing now will really pay off. That Mr/Mrs Perfect at some point, will prove to be oh not so Perfect and thats when loving beyond the conditions comes in to play.
Well your imperfect friends and family members are the perfect solution to get you to perfect your love, for your Mr/Mrs Perfect! Perfect! Here’s the thing, rather than waiting to pour out that love of yours, why not begin the flow with the people around you.
Just yesterday I had to have a bit of a tug o war with my sister, as she currently has to wear a mouth guard to keep her from grinding her teeth, due to her accident. While trying to put it in, I thought sticking my finger in there would get her to open her mouth so that I could slip that mouth guard in. Needless to say, my plan backfired on me and my finger got the chomp! I immediately wanted to get frustrated and give up by calling a nurse for assistance.
Rather than throwing in the towel, I knew that this was the perfect opportunity to work on my love and my patience! After 5-10 minutes, I somehow managed to get the mouth guard in! It’s not my sisters fault, going through a car accident and experiencing brain trauma, the last thing she’s thinking is how can I bite Arica’s finger off?! (Or was she?? lol …I am the oldest, it could’ve been payback for all those years!!)
Point is, it was a moment where I got to choose to walk out my love with my sister, even when it cost me. If you don’t think walking out this kind of love now, will not help me in the future, you’ve got another thing coming!
So if you’re struggling as a Single, wondering where Mr/Mrs Perfect is, don’t worry, you have the perfect opportunity to practice on growing that Love inside of you for them! Just think, Loving those around you, while allowing it to mold and stretch you, will be the perfect antidote to giving you a fulfilled marriage! Love Where it Counts…. and you’ll save tons of money by avoiding Marriage Counseling and/or Divorce for that matter!