I was recently talking to a girlfriend of mine about the whole LA dating saga. We were talking about how people interact, what dating looks like out there and the all too many frustrations that come with it. In the middle of our conversation I voiced that one thing that is lacking is the lack of respect for people. Even with my deep southern roots from the grand state of Texas, I too found myself becoming jaded and disregarding of people’s emotions, time and all that is entailed with dating, while out in my Single LA days.
It was so much about, what you can do for me, do you fit into what I want for this week and if not, then you’re thrown to the curb. I won’t just put it on LA, as this sort of thing is tending to be everywhere. Bottom line is we’ve lost respect for one another. We’ve become so consumed with ourselves that we forget about the person in front of us. I still can do this in my own life. Thankfully my significant other is strong and says, “Hey what about me?? What about how I feel in this?” To which he’s right.
I feel like some date with this mentality that everyone owes them and if they don’t step up to some high imaginary mark they’ve set, then the other person is completely dismissed. Hey! No one owes you anything! You owe it to yourself, to love yourself. Quit setting the mark so high and realize that you may also fail to meet your own mark.
Quit disrespecting people, easily judging them, figuring them out only in effort to protect your own hurt. Get your own stuff worked out and quit putting it on everyone else. I hate to hear a man being cut down by girls, I hate hearing women being cut down by other men. It’s disgusting. What gives us the right to treat God’s children like trash? We have no right. However we do have the right to love ourselves and work on our ourselves, with the hopes that we will attract someone who loves us just as well.
Listen I’ll be the first to admit that I can be self-righteous, judgmental, egotistical and sometimes downright rude in my opinion of others.. and for me, its not okay. Thankfully I’m continually a work in progress and will be for the rest of my life. I’m brushing up on my perfection !
Point is, when we’re out dating, it’s really simple… BE RESPECTFUL! Respect yourself, respect others. Respect their time, emotions, well being, money and their heart. If you have to cut people down, mis-use them, or throw them to the curb all the time, then let me enlighten you. People are not your problem, your brokeness is. Work on you and allow others the time to sort themselves out.
This goes for every aspect of dating, online dating, meeting people out at clubs, Facebook dating…whatever! Respect people. They have a heart, they have a story, chances are they’ve been hurt just like you… so show some respect!