The past couple of weeks have been pretty wild, almost like a roller coaster of emotions with lots of heartache and loss. I found out on Facebook a friend from grade school had committed suicide, though I had not seen this person in ages it really disturbed me and broke my heart to hear of his passing. My pastor that I’ve known since my teenage years recently lost his father to cancer, all along we had high hopes of his recovery believing that he would pull through. It was a big loss as his father was quite the dynamic man and was just altogether too young to go. Both stories alone really bothered me deeply and I could feel my heart becoming really sad and heavy.
A couple of days later as I was walking in to visit my sister, my mother called me and asked if I heard about what else had happened to my pastors family. ”Mom c’mon you’ve got be kidding, what do you mean “What else” has happened to their family?” She then informed me that my pastors cousin, who I had also known since a teenager at church camps, that his wife, their two younger sons and their now unborn child had all died in a car accident. I couldn’t believe it, I had just seen them weeks ago at church so how on earth could this be possible? In that moment I became speechless and just sat with my sister silently as my arm rested on her, sitting in absolute unbelief of what had just occurred.
I’m typically a pretty vocal person, but when it comes to matters that are significantly close to my heart, I become very quiet and keep all that I am processing inside myself. When I can’t take it anymore, or feel like I’m not making progress with my processing, then I will reach out to those close to me in my inner circle. With such a load on my mind, there was my sister sitting there, still unable to move much since being hit by a drunk driver in 2010, still not speaking, but just sitting in her rehab chair or lying in her bed. I go from sad to frustrated regarding her situation and this still remains the subject that I don’t discuss really with anyone. I keep it in because frankly, we just need a miracle on her behalf.
Lets pass on to several nights ago when we as a family were notified that my little cousin at the age of 10 is in the hospital as he may have either Leukemia or a rare blood disease. We are awaiting the results from a bone marrow test that was done today. Do the words “too much” seem adequate? Yes I would say so. He, his mother and father all seem so strong with it all. They’ve had their moments where they break, but gosh their strength is amazing. As several of us family members were in his ICU room Friday evening, I watched everyone moving around. Coordinating where his little sister would stay, who would arrange for clothes, food, etc. Our family was there, we were there together in unity there to support my aunt and her husband in any way we could.
It touched my heart in such a significant way, as it was a reminder to me of just how important relationships are. Through my sisters accident my life was changed for the better as I was taught and received a major lesson. I have always been driven to want success, to accomplish all thats in my heart, but I learned through the love of my family that no success or achievement can ever replace the power of love that flows from relationships. They are everything. Relationships and the love that comes out of them is everything. Did you hear me? They are everything.
As my pastor shared from his heart this Sunday about his own journey of walking out losing his father and then his cousins all within a matter of days, he reiterated the message playing over and over in my heart that it’s the relationships in our lives that makes it all worthwhile. Relationships truly do make it worth while. They are worth nurturing, investing time into and fighting for. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Sure you hear it all the time, but the truth of the matter is it really isn’t worth it. So what that the person annoys the hell out of you, sure you guys disagree on many levels, but the value of your relationship and the love that transpires out of it is everything.
Value your relationships for they could be the most important thing in your life.