Does it really irritate you when people put down fairytales? It’s like the whole Santa situation, this fat man brought you hope, he brought you presents and then one day your parents tell you its all a lie. Those Oreo cookies, or Twinkies (this may be the last year “Santa” gets those) that we left out for this carb lover of a bearded man, really never touched our snacks.. our parents, the greedy liars were the ones devouring these goodies!
Well isn’t it the same when someone touches the “fairytale button”. Especially us women, we grew up on these! We were hoping to be Cinderella, desperate to be Snow White, Belle and the Beast well that fairytale was for the women who enjoyed working for their relationship. The majority of us wanted to be kissed, have our shoe given back and immediately upgraded to the palace. So who in their damn minds decided to go around busting our fairytale bubbles? THE JERKS.
All that to say, here I go, I’m about to do the exact same. I assure you, I’m still a
huge fairytale advocate, just with a more realistic approach. So for one let’s just be honest. Fairytales lied to me!! What? ”How can you say that Arica?” Well I’ll tell you.
Fairytales create this world where you are victimized, powerless and in dire need for someone to rescue you. They tell you that if you’re a good woman, that’s just a natural sweetheart, then everything will work out for you. Just keep singing to birds and despite the bitch of a witch that is consumed with destroying you, your love for nature and mice who converse back with you will cause everything to work. You’ll get kissed, fireworks will break out, your dwarf friends will move with you to the palace and your favorite shoe is finally found and returned!!
Sounds like a winning combination, the problem is its not entirely true. Yes you always want to be a good person, I can’t tell you how many single guys I talk to and they say that despite how beautiful some women are, their negative attitudes completely turn them off. But to say that thats all we’re given to do is a hoax.
Fairytales don’t tell us that we are powerful, that life is far more than sitting around waiting for Prince Charming to come. Fairytales don’t show us what we can do in the meantime. Fairytales don’t uncover that life awards those who are proactive and that most people who are waiting and saying “it’s just a timing thing” will spend the rest of their lives doing that….just waiting.
I’m convinced that Prince Charming does exist, though he may not be perfect I stand by fellow men and say that there are plenty of good ones out there. I wish I had many lives to live so that I could marry all of the amazing men I encounter, but I only have one life, so only one will do. I meet so many good men out there and will never succumb to the “all men are evil” bs. But the bottom line is this, waiting, blaming time and just focusing on playing with squirrels and singing with mice does not put you in the position to meet Prince Charming. Taking action does and it is required of you!