Big mouth, sporadic behavior, loud personality…yep this can sum me up at times. I can’t tell you the countless times I’ve tried to reel myself in, go through some rational self talk of “Arica you can’t say that. Arica you can’t do that. Arica you really shouldn’t.” Sweet, quiet, methodical women I have always admired and despite how much I’ve tried to constrain myself to be a little bit more like them, I have never achieved this internal goal.
Very simply, I have to be me. Besides I just enjoy being me too much, I have so much fun at it. When I try to behave like others I find myself very bored, disappointed, sad and frustrated. I’m a bomb of life always ready to go off. However when the explosion takes place I’ve had to ask myself “Damn did that just happen?”
I love the saying “Be yourself, everyone else is taken (Oscar Wilde)” It’s the truth. Especially when it comes to Dating and Relationships. Anytime we try to be something we’re not we set ourselves up for disappointment. We set the other person up for disappointment as well.
Too often times we date out of a lack of abundance. We think the person in front of us is all there is and so we have to make it work. We have to bend ourselves, reshape our personalities to make the situation work. But it’s simply not true. The only way you can every truly enjoy your dating and relationships is by first enjoying you. Once you’ve done that, you bring that into your dating life, you bring that into your relationship. You DON’T abandon ship meaning throw your true self out the window.
I am still learning the importance and the power of allowing myself to be me. The repercussions of that I am more than willing to deal with, even if my friends send me pictures the next morning that have me questioning “Damn did that just happen?” Listen you were created to be uniquely you so to downplay that for anyone will never serve anyone. You’ve got to be you. There is someone out there who is just waiting for you to shine, so quit dimming your light!!