Have you ever worn glasses? I personally have not, however while doing some editing on my last book, which you should grab at http://www.amazon.com/Dating-with-a-Point-ebook/dp/B007G9TZW2 I needed a pair of reading glasses! Whether or not you wear them, even if you’re sporting sunglasses, it’s so much easier to have a pair with clean lenses. Smudges, fogged over due to humidity and scratches on those lenses can really make seeing quite the challenge.
You know even when we look at others, we can see them through lenses that don’t always give us a clear representation. Let’s take fear for example. If you look at people that you’re dating, in a relationship with or even married to through lenses fogged over by fear, then you can pretty much kiss enjoying that person for who they are goodbye! Maybe you’re the type that has high expectations so instead of accepting people for who they are, you look at them through the lenses of false expectations. It’s what you expect out of them, but maybe they’re not interested in your expectations?
Anytime we choose to see people apart from the eyes of love, we’ve got trouble on our hands. I wish I could say that I’m writing this out of theory, or speculation, but unfortunately its through first hand experience. I’ve done, I hate it and I’m committed to no longer participate with it. There have been a couple of times where the guys I’ve been with, have I missed out on the opportunity of enjoying and seeing them for who they were. Instead my lenses were filled to the brim with fear smothered all over.
Despite that they were loving, tender and very lovable, the lenses that I saw thru told me differently. Unfortunate for them and myself I was unable to celebrate their beauty and the strengths they possessed. The interesting thing about looking at others either through fear or false expectations is that it doesn’t portray the real you either. The person on the opposite end gets the brashness that fear incurs upon them and therefore since you participated with fear, you in turn get to be viewed as the monster to be feared. Thankfully because I love well, I’ve still been able to maintain relationship with those I’ve hurt in my past. But while I treasure that, I wish I had cleansed my lenses and thoroughly for that matter.
Learn from my mistakes. Choose to see people through love, give them the benefit of the doubt. I know there are people out there who act like idiots, so I’m not asking you stick around and be a punching bag. But don’t be the person who is so consumed with fear that you miss out on the beauty around you and in front of you for that matter. So the next time you’re going on that date, spending time with your significant other or having the next dinner with your spouse, make sure you check your lenses first!
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