Yesterday I was speaking with one of my business mentors and he was sharing with me how his life has shifted into one phenomenal occurrence to another. I could tell by his charisma, the sincerity in his voice that things indeed had shifted in his life. I asked him what it was that he felt brought on this huge shift and the answer I actually found surprising. When he shared it with me it all made sense. A practice I’m a huge believer in and make sure that I implement it often in my own life. It’s something that I find I need to be reminded of, because the simplicity of it can easily be shrugged off, but it’s imperative to do.
So what is it you may be asking?
He shared with me how he became really comfortable with spending time alone with himself. He resisted the need for surrounding himself with people who just filled space, but only being in environments that were true to what he wanted and desired. Being with people that he connected with on a real level and not just boring, mundane surface sort of conversations.
Think about how often you spend time alone? Do you enjoy your time being only with you? Or do you feel pushed to check your Facebook, do you spend more time with your iPhone then actually engaging the present moment given to you? I mean whats so great about you anyways? Why would you want to spend time with yourself?
Aha! You see it’s those questions that you have to be willing to answer. Imagine meeting someone who’s so annoyed with them-self, I mean when they’re alone they’re constantly annoyed, they’re miserable as hell and a frustrating fright. This person who can’t stand being with them-self then says they want to spend time with you. They want to hang with you all the time and frankly they’d like to be intimate with you. Would you run away?
Yet that’s exactly what you’re asking from someone else when you haven’t learned and enjoyed being by yourself. When you’re the person who constantly needs to stay busy, on the go and surrounded with company. You’re saying I don’t enjoy being with me, but if only I could find someone to share it with then I’d be all better. Wrong. Completely wrong.
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Get comfortable with yourself so that you’re not on the hunt for misery seeking company.