I wrote about Chemistry and how he’s that one guy you definitely want to pay attention to when you’re dating, or even in a relationship for that matter. He’ll let you know when the man or woman that you’re with is “Good to Go!” or a “NO! Go!” Grant it there are those times where Mr. Chemistry may take some time to show his face, however when that turns into months, I mentioned that it’s at that point you’re in the Lying Zone.
So now that we all know the importance of Chemistry, my question to you is, is it everything? Meaning, is chemistry the main signal, is it everything that matters when finding or being with that special someone? Well let me share with you a personal story, that I’m sure will give you the direct answer if this is dilemma you’re facing.
I met this gentleman through some mutual friends and we had seen each other out at some of the same spots frequently. The package seemed to make sense. Good looking, excellent personality, great verve for life, the job, the car, the clothes and all the what have you’s. Chemistry was definitely in our favor as we seemed to be very attracted to one another. All seemed to be well, Mr. Chemistry whispered in my ear “This is a GO!”. So I continued to see him.
That is until several days and dates had passed, I then realized, something wasn’t quite right. When the signs start popping up, friends, that’s the Universe’s way of saying “Watch out and be vigilant!” So that’s what I did. Sometimes if you give someone a bit of a space, a stage to perform on so to speak and you provide a listening ear, you’d be surprised how much they’ll show you, all on their own accord.
This guy had some major anger issues. And boy were they exploding quite frequently. That’s when I had to look Mr. Chemistry in the face and say, “Sorry bud, but you may be pointing for a Go!, but my common sense says… “ABANDON SHIP!!!” So that’s exactly what I did.
Despite how much Chemistry this guy and I shared, his explosive temper was uncalled for and you couldn’t have paid me to put up with it. While Chemistry may be a very excellent indicator saying that this could be a match, we’ve also been given other fantastic tools like a Brain, Eyes, Emotions and Friends, to indicate, MOVE ON!
Chemistry is Everything? It’s a VITAL part…but No, it is NOT Everything.